Parents and caregivers

The period of PURPLE crying

When a baby starts to cry and you start to feel your emotions rise, it is time to take a break.

  • Put your baby in a safe place. Close your eyes and take long, deep breaths. After one minute, pick baby back up. You may have other calming exercises, but focusing your attention on a few deep breaths without any other visual distraction is a good start.
  • Keep the baby monitor with you, and check in on your baby with a quick visit every 10 to 15 minutes or so until you feel calm enough to pick them up.
  • If this doesn’t work, reach out and call someone.

There are a number of methods you can use to relax, here are some you can try:

  • Listen to music
  • Take a warm bath
  • Exercise
  • Watch TV
  • Doing your usual routines, hanging out the washing, preparing a meal
  • Talk to someone
  • Remember to laugh often
  • Sleep when your baby sleeps

For more detailed information about techniques you can use, visit the Period of PURPLE Crying program.